Why hello again!
It has been almost three months since my last post. I have multiple excuses to give you for the lack of traction on my blog but none of which will ultimately come down to the real reason I haven’t been active.
HELLLLOOO self-doubt. HELLLOOOOO self limiting beliefs.
A lot has happened in three months, including some major setbacks. These setbacks have definitely encouraged me to rethink my plan and my goal. I still don’t have an answer for everything, and I have no idea where my next step is but I will take the next step nevertheless.
However, along the way, I have run into a nasty version of myself. The version who spits self-doubt give me self-limiting beliefs.
Have you ever caught yourself saying you could never achieve something because you don’t have the tools or the resources to start? I have.
I have also told myself that I am not smart enough, not qualified enough, not motivated enough. You name it. I have told myself many different self-limiting ideas to where I would rather hide in my current situation and stop this journey to my goal.
So many times we tell ourselves that we cannot do something because we ourselves don’t believe we can achieve success.
In the past months, I continued to feed my mind with self-limiting ideas. Sometimes, I’d even go as far as blame it on others.
If you follow me on Instagram, I have written about this before. Not because I have figured it all out, but because I am currently in the mix of this self-doubting.
Below I have come up with a few concepts that have gotten in my way and a few that have helped me. Please note, I am currently in the developing stage and I cannot say that I have figured it all out, but I am more inclined to understand what exactly is going on.
Fear can limit us and limit our abilities. We’d almost rather not try something in fear that we will fail. But dig deeper, what exactly are you afraid of if you fail?
For me, I am afraid of what others may think. Afraid that others will wag their fingers and say that belittling little line “I told you so”. I become so consumed of others thoughts on my life that it limits my ability to hit major milestones. I have to constantly remind myself that these people are not on the path that I am on, they cannot get in my way if I don’t allow them to. I have to be the one to make my path and stop becoming consumed in others perceptions of me.
It is so important to know what that real fear is. Know exactly what you are afraid of and run towards it in full force. That sounds so terrifying but it is honestly what is keeping me going. My fear is limiting me from taking risks and possibly failing. Some of our greatest moments stem from failure but fear will keep us in our place.
GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY
I will be the first to admit that I have a very bad habit of blaming all my problems on other people. I don’t like the idea that I am the one standing in front of my path. It is so much easier to blame someone else than to look in the mirror and realize you’re in the way.
What I am slowly starting to learn is that yes, there will be people who don’t like your work. There will be people who try to bring you down. There will be people who don’t believe in you. BUT, if you begin to give into their perceptions, then you yourself become your road block. If you really think about it, other people do not have the capacity to stand in your way. They will try, but where there is a will, there is a way. Besides, they aren’t on this journey, YOU ARE! You just have to push your self critic to the side and stop believing everything everyone tells you.
Personally, every day is a struggle to believe that I am capable. But your drive is what will lead to success.
One of my best examples of this is when I was on my weight loss journey. Every day I thought I would NEVER be where I am today. I really didn’t think it was possible. I had never once been this size, I had never once fit into a size two, and I have NEVER had self-control over my diet. But I had the drive. I kept going. Even though I didn’t know where this journey would take me, I kept going.
Perseverance is a powerful tool. Look at your favorite famous athletes. They did not get where they are today without conflict and without doubt. They kept going. They didn’t stop.
Right now, I am in the push stage. I am pushing through my self-limiting thoughts. I am working on allowing myself to explore, fail, and get back up again. I am allowing myself to hear hateful comments and rise above. It is so incredibly hard, but I will keep going. I still have that drive from my weightloss journey in me, I will continue.
Finally, your tribe. A beautiful group of people who support you, who encourage you, and who will not allow you to stand in your way.
Your tribe needs to consist of inspirational people who are near and dear to you. People who you admire and who push you to be better every day. It doesn’t need to be a lot of people but you do need your tribe.
Your tribe will tell you when you’re filling your head with harmful thoughts. Your tribe will pick you back up when you do fall. Your tribe will help you reevaluate routes when the path took a turn.
These people need to be people who do not limit your thoughts. Who encourage you to think big and come up with ideas to help you achieve those big goals. Your tribe needs to be people who make you feel good. This is so important.
My tribe are women mostly who, within their own life, found purpose and who have not let others or their self-doubt get in their way. These women have pushed their self-critic aside and made a way for their growth.
Wherever you are on your journey, whatever journey it is, don’t allow yourself to get in the way. Don’t allow other’s comments get your way. For some reason, we all have to have an opinion on everyone else’s path but fail to implement or push forward on our own path. Don’t be that person. Find your own way.
I hope you enjoyed reading. Remember, that what is written is usually what I am currently going through or what I have just accomplished. I love engaging in enlightening conversation and want to hear from you! Let me know your goals, your path, your fears. I would love to be part of your tribe.
Thank you for reading!